Now That the Holidays Are Over, It’s Time to Get Help!
The presents have been opened, everyone has eaten way too much, and the family has survived another holiday season. For most families, now is a time for preparing for a new year, going back to work and getting on with life. For other families who are dealing with addiction, there is a sigh of relief now that the holidays are over. They no longer have to pretend everything is okay in front of Grandma and Grandpa, explain why their loved one is so tired and isn’t spending time with the family and basically doing everything they can to “keep the peace” so that the situation doesn’t explode and cause an epic holiday meltdown. As we come into a new year, now, more than ever, is a time to change and get help.
It’s pretty hard to get an addict to get help before the holidays. They claim to want to spend time with the family and “be there with everyone.” They give every excuse in the book why they shouldn’t go to rehab and get help.
“I’ll go to rehab after Christmas, I promise!”
“I just want to spend time with the family before I go.”
Let’s face it, addiction kills and no one wants to bury their loved one because they waited too long to get help before the drugs killed them. Now it’s time to have the addict make good on all those promises. Many addicts tell their family that they’ll go to rehab after Christmas is over, as a way to get the family off their back and allow them to procrastinate doing the only thing that will save them. While this is twisted logic, it’s the truth. If the addict can get the family to allow them to wait until after the holidays to get help, there will just be another excuse afterward.
“I want to wait until after New Years.”
“It’s not that bad. I just need to get a job.”
“But mom’s birthday is in a few weeks. I’ll go after.”
No matter what time of year, addicts will give excuse after excuse as to why they shouldn’t get help, right then and there. What has to happen now is that the family has to stop being reasonable, stop taking “no” for an answer, and get the addict into treatment immediately. If they continue to put up a fight, there are professional interventionists that will work with them to get their agreement to get help and then bring them to whatever rehab the family sets up. The only other option is to allow the addict to keep getting high, stealing, lying, manipulating, ruining family gatherings, and just making life miserable for everyone.
What You Can Do?
The best thing to do is have the family band together to help the addict. The family needs to get past all of the addict’s stops and barriers and get them to a treatment center that will get to the core root of their problems and rehabilitate their lives. Unfortunately, the only other options are continued personal degradation and, ultimately, death, jail or other institutions.
Narconon is a non 12-step program that specializes in handling all of the underlying causes to addiction. For many years, the Narconon program has helped those once thought lost to drugs by actually dealing with the cravings, followed by a comprehensive Life Skills program and 2 years of follow-up care. For all those families who are dealing with an addicted loved one, don’t wait. Find a treatment center that will best suit their needs and get them in immediately. Don’t let another year slip by.